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Have you got the gambling fix? Do you have that magnetic attraction to gambling that arises every time you have money? Does this attraction drive you to spend all your extra money… and your bill money? Has your phone or hydro been cut off? Did you lose your house because you spent your mortgage money on gambling? Be careful… gambling can be fatal!
Gambling can lead to many unsavory things. People who gamble usually lie continuously. They lie to their spouses, their parents, their kids and their friends about how they spent their money. They will exaggerate about how much things cost. People who gamble will make every excuse to the phone company, hydro company, or even the bank as live22 to why they can’t pay their bill when it is due. They are really good at coming up with sob stories in hopes this will buy them some time. Time enough to gamble some more and hopefully win enough money back to cover their bills. If you’re a gambler, eventually you will run out of excuses. People will no longer believe your sob stories. What will you do then?
The thought of never being able to gamble again can be depressing, because it is the only thing that seems to make you happy. You love gambling but you have to admit it’s ruining your life. You miss time from work because you skip work to gamble. Maybe you even lose your job! What do you do now! With no job you can no longer gamble. Now the depression sets in because you can no longer enjoy the only thing that made you happy. What do you do now?
You begin to think about all the money you lost. You also begin to think about the friends you lost. Maybe you even lost your family! The reality begins to sink in. You have sunk to the bottom! The depression worsens. Now you’re feeling suicidal. So now the question is: do you do it or not? Do you just end it? Maybe everyone would be better off without you! You feel like such a screw-up anyhow. This is how your gambling fix can become fatal!
At this point you can succumb to these feelings or you can turn your life around. You still have the choice. Don’t end your life. Stay for awhile. There are many things you can do to overcome this depression and your gambling habit. You can go for counseling or join a 12 Steps program. Start to read Self-Help books. Learn how to meditate. Incorporate positive affirmations into your life. Journal every day. If you put as much energy into becoming well as you did into gambling, you will overcome this addiction.
If you have a gambling addiction then you may be wondering how you became so addicted. How did this happen to you? How did you find yourself so deeply entranced in such an addiction? You certainly didn’t intend to have this gambling addiction. Exploring the causes may help you quit.
There are many causes that may have led you to succumb to a gambling addiction. Some are apparent but some are not so apparent. The causes that are easiest to see include unhappiness and your dissatisfaction with life. Also, you may have experienced a negative event that triggered your gambling addiction. The non–apparent causes of your addiction include type A personality and negative thoughts that are buried in your subconscious mind.
Let’s first explore the apparent causes of your gambling addiction. If you are unhappy and dissatisfied with your life then you will tend to seek something outside of yourself to help you feel happy. This can be the point when you turn to an addiction such as gambling. You are looking for that instant fix to become happy and satisfied. Unfortunately, this instant fix is not long–lasting. It is what it is — instant! You need to find other things that will bring you happiness. You need to learn to enjoy the small things in life. Find things to look forward to other than gambling.
Another apparent cause for your gambling addiction may be connected to a negative event in your life. This event may have triggered your addiction. It may have been the loss of job, loss of a partner or loss of material things, Your grief over your loss could be the trigger. It is important to seek out counseling, or read an excellent self-help book, to deal with your loss in order to let go of it. Letting go will allow you to grow and live for the future.
Now let’s explore the non–apparent causes of your gambling addiction. You may have a type “A” personality. It is this type of personality that drives you to continue gambling. You want to win. You think that if you gamble enough you will figure out the key to winning. You think you may have unlocked the secret to winning the slots, the trick to betting on the horses or you’ve developed the best poker face for Texas Hold’em. You’re sure that you have control over your gambling addiction. Isn’t it all just a game anyhow? At this point you must remember that gambling is what it is — a gamble. There is no sure-fire way to win.
Another non-apparent cause for your gambling addiction may be negative messages that are buried deep within your subconscious mind. For example, when you were young you may have been told that playing cards was a taboo; that if you played cards you would grow up to have a gambling addiction. You may have also been told that if you bought even one lotto ticket you would become a gambler. If these negative messages were relayed to you on a regular basis then they would be rooted in your subconscious mind, and you will have lived your life accordingly. The best way to eliminate these negative messages is through hypnosis/hypnotherapy. A Hypnotherapist can bring out these negative messages and rectify them